Anupama Parameswaran has spoken publicly about a deeply difficult period in her personal life, describing an experience she says involved narcissistic abuse and affected both her emotional and physical wellbeing.
During an episode of I AM with Dhanya Varma, the Premam actress discussed the circumstances surrounding a cryptic social-media post she had previously shared. Rather than describing the post as an impulsive reaction, Anupama explained that it came after a long period of processing what she had experienced.
The actress did not identify the person involved.
According to Anupama, the relationship lasted for a significant period and left her feeling increasingly disconnected from herself. She described the experience in particularly stark terms, saying, “I started to shrink.”
Anupama Says the Experience Affected Her Physically
While discussing the relationship, Anupama said the period involved emotional as well as physical distress. She also revealed that she lost a considerable amount of weight during that time.
Her comments highlighted how an unhealthy relationship can affect more than a person’s emotional state, particularly when the experience continues over an extended period.
For Anupama, recognising what had happened appears to have been a gradual process rather than something she immediately understood.
She explained that she waited before speaking openly about the experience, choosing to address it after reaching a point where she felt she had healed enough to acknowledge what she had gone through.
An Instagram Reel Helped Her Recognise What She Had Experienced
Anupama also spoke about the moment her understanding of narcissistic abuse began to change.
She recalled watching an Instagram Reel in which actor Madonna Sebastian discussed the subject. The conversation affected her strongly, and Anupama said she began physically shaking while watching it.
The experience prompted her to reflect on aspects of her own relationship that she had not previously identified in those terms.
Her comments also suggested that understanding abusive relationship dynamics can take time, particularly for people who are directly experiencing them.
Anupama Wants to Reach People Who Have Not Identified the Abuse
During the conversation, Anupama discussed different ways people may respond to the subject of narcissistic abuse.
She spoke about people who have personally experienced it, along with family members and friends who have witnessed someone going through it. She also referred to people who may have heard the term but have never needed to research or understand it closely.
Another group, according to the actress, consists of people who make assumptions or respond to the subject through a gender-based lens.
But Anupama said there was another group she particularly wanted to address: people who may have experienced abuse themselves but have not yet recognised or identified it.
She described that group as particularly concerning because recognising unhealthy behaviour can be an important part of understanding what is happening in a relationship.
Her Earlier Cryptic Post Had Sparked Speculation
Anupama’s latest comments come roughly a month after a cryptic Instagram post attracted considerable attention online.
In that post, the actress spoke about letting go, choosing her own life and finding her way back to herself. The message led to speculation among fans about whether she had experienced a breakup.
Some social-media users connected the post to rumours surrounding her relationship with Dhruv Vikram.
Anupama and Dhruv have been linked by fans, particularly following their work around Bison Kaalamaadan. However, neither actor has publicly confirmed the status of their relationship.
It is therefore important to distinguish online speculation from information confirmed by either actor.
Anupama’s Conversation Goes Beyond Relationship Rumours
The discussion on I AM with Dhanya Varma shifts the focus away from speculation about Anupama’s personal relationships and towards the experience she says she went through.
By speaking about narcissistic abuse without identifying the person involved, the actress has kept the focus on her own experience and the process of recognising its effects.
Her description of feeling herself “shrink” also reflects the broader emotional impact she associated with the relationship. She spoke about losing weight, experiencing distress and eventually finding enough distance to discuss the period more openly.
For audiences familiar with Anupama primarily through her film work, the conversation offers a different perspective on the actress and the personal experiences she has chosen to share publicly.
Anupama Parameswaran’s Message About Finding Herself Again
Anupama’s comments suggest that recovery was not an overnight process.
Her earlier social-media post about letting go and finding her way back to herself, followed by her detailed discussion with Dhanya Varma, presents a picture of someone who spent considerable time reflecting on a painful chapter before speaking about it.
The actress has not publicly identified the person she was referring to, and the details of the relationship remain private.
What she has chosen to discuss is the impact it had on her and the importance of recognising behaviour that can be difficult to understand while someone is living through it.
Her conversation has also opened a wider discussion among viewers about narcissistic abuse, emotional wellbeing and the difficulty of identifying unhealthy relationship patterns.
