Yami Gautam has offered a rare glimpse into her married life with filmmaker Aditya Dhar, revealing that the couple prefers the comfort of home and family time over frequent outings or constant public attention.
Yami Gautam and Aditya Dhar have built a reputation for keeping their personal lives away from the spotlight. While both have successful careers in the Hindi film industry, the couple rarely turns their relationship into a subject of public discussion.
That privacy was recently discussed by Yami during a conversation with Humans of Bombay, where the actor opened up about what everyday married life looks like for her and Aditya.
According to Yami, their life together is considerably more ordinary than the public image surrounding two successful people in the film industry might suggest.
Yami Gautam says she and Aditya Dhar are “extremely similar” about privacy
Speaking about her relationship with Aditya, Yami repeatedly returned to one word: private.
“Aditya and I, again, extremely similar when it comes to…I don’t know how many times I’ve used this word on your podcast, but private,” she said during the conversation.
Yami explained that privacy is not something the couple has adopted as a publicity strategy. Rather, it is simply part of who they are.
The actor said that both of them enjoy their professional lives but like returning home to what she described as a regular, normal family environment.
For Yami, that means conversations that have little to do with celebrity life.
“Aaj khaane mein kya bana hai? Aaj khaane mein kya khaaye?” she said, describing the kind of everyday discussions they have at home.
She also mentioned simple questions such as what they want to do or watch.
Their idea of quality time is staying at home
Yami’s comments offer an interesting contrast to the perception that celebrity couples necessarily spend their weekends attending events, going out or maintaining a highly visible social life.
She said that she and Aditya were never the kind of couple who felt they had to leave the house simply because it was a weekend.
“We were never the kind to think it was important to go out today, or ‘It’s the weekend, so let’s go out’,” she explained.
For the couple, spending time together does not appear to depend on being seen together publicly.
That distinction is particularly relevant for public figures, whose professional lives already involve considerable exposure. Maintaining an ordinary private space can become a way of separating work from personal life.
Why some couples choose to keep relationships private
The decision to maintain privacy is not necessarily unusual, particularly for people whose professional lives already place them under public scrutiny.
Counselling psychologist Athul Raj explained that privacy can give couples greater control over their emotional space.
According to Raj, keeping a relationship private can allow two people to develop their bond without constantly dealing with outside judgment, gossip or expectations.
Privacy can also give partners time to understand their feelings, assess compatibility and work through family expectations without feeling that every decision is being observed.
For people in highly visible professions, it can also help prevent their personal relationship from overshadowing their professional achievements.
Privacy is different from secrecy
There is an important distinction between choosing privacy and deliberately hiding a relationship, Raj noted.
Healthy privacy can involve setting boundaries around what a couple shares publicly and deciding which aspects of their life should remain between partners, family and trusted friends.
Secrecy, however, can become problematic when it produces persistent fear, guilt or anxiety.
Raj said that hiding a relationship because of avoidance rather than a desire for healthy boundaries can potentially affect trust, confidence and emotional well-being.
The difference ultimately comes down to whether privacy creates a sense of safety or whether secrecy becomes a source of ongoing stress.
Dealing with criticism when life is lived publicly
For celebrities, completely avoiding public opinion is difficult.
Yami and Aditya may prefer a private home life, but their careers naturally expose them to public discussion, social media commentary and scrutiny.
Raj suggested that dealing with criticism begins with being clear about one’s own values and decisions.
When people feel secure about their choices, outside opinions can have less influence over their emotional well-being.
Setting boundaries is also important. Deciding what to discuss publicly — and what to keep within a trusted circle — can help protect emotional energy.
Rather than treating every criticism as a statement of fact, Raj recommends viewing outside opinions as commentary that does not necessarily define the truth about a person’s life.
Creating emotional distance from social media noise
Social media can make maintaining privacy particularly difficult.
Public figures can encounter criticism, speculation and unsolicited opinions almost instantly. Constant exposure to that material can make it difficult to remain emotionally detached.
Raj suggested limiting unnecessary exposure to social media and filtering conversations that repeatedly create stress.
He also pointed to practices such as deep breathing, journaling and mindfulness as ways of reducing emotional reactivity.
A strong support system can serve a similar purpose. Friends, mentors and family members who respect personal boundaries can provide reassurance when public attention becomes overwhelming.
Yami and Aditya’s quiet approach to married life
Yami’s comments ultimately suggest that the couple’s preference for privacy is less about hiding their relationship and more about protecting the ordinary life they have built away from their careers.
The actor’s description of conversations about dinner, what to watch and what to do at home is deliberately mundane — and that may be exactly what makes it revealing.
For two people whose professional lives are regularly discussed in public, normality can itself become valuable.
Yami and Aditya do not appear to need a public outing or a social-media moment to define their relationship. Their version of togetherness seems to be rooted in the quieter parts of everyday life: returning home after work, sharing a meal, deciding what to watch and spending time together without an audience.
In an industry where personal relationships can quickly become public property, their approach highlights another possibility — that a successful relationship does not necessarily need to be highly visible to be meaningful.
